Ramadan Kareem to you and yours from me and me! From the bottom of my heart I wish you all a super blessed month filled with lots of ease, peace, and prayer inshallah x
Quick rundown of Ramadan: the 9th month of the Islamic calendar when Muslims all over the world abstain from food and drink to commemorate the revelation of the Quran to Prophet Muhammad. It’s a time where friends and families gather in remembrance of God and goodness so as to come closer to the faith itself. As kids we were told we fast to feel what others in the world feel on the daily to remind ourselves how blessed we are so we can be grateful for everything which I think still stands; the gates of heaven are also open tenfold this month as shaytaan (satan) is kinda sorta locked up for the month so any good deeds you do are multiplied. I could go on lol but essentially a special month for us and one which most of us look forward to every year to gain as many blessings and goodness as we can and I suppose reflect on every conscious and subconscious thought and action; if shaytaan is locked up and I’ve still got bad thoughts and can’t blame him, that means its just me init?! dun dun dunn lol you get the gist yea?!
Right after Maghrib your girl went to make dua #standard, and this wave of excitement came over me like the night before Christmas (joke, I don’t do Christmas lol) but just this Ramadan giddiness at the fact it was that time of year again and how blessed to be alive to witness and partake in it, and I suppose be granted another chance to revive my heart&soul. Ironed my abaya, ready to head to the masjid for the first tarawih of the month only to learn it was a false alarm and that we’ve got one more day haha so I’m taking it as a sign to sit down and reflect on things I might want to work on this month inshallah; thought I’d share some of them, not to contend for Muslim-of-the-year or any of that [in fact I think faith is a personal thing between you and God but let’s leave that be] but I enjoy reading and reflecting on other people’s [general] goals and visions and aspirations and at times they inspire me to keep that light at the end of the tunnel aglow or add them to my list of growth, and Ramadan is a month of sharing and reflecting so why not add to that realm of potential pintrest inspo lol
so, here are 5 of a few more things I’d personally like to work on or get better at this month and I hope they might resonate with some of you as well!x
- Pray on time regardless of where I may be
I might be lame for this one, granted I’m currently living in a Muslim country and there are always places to stop and pray, but I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes if I’m out or at work and adhan goes, I’ll talk myself into making it up later when I get home (which I do alhamdulillah), but yea, no excuses this month inshallah! I know I can’t be the only one who does this lol and if I am, oops, but hopefully if it becomes routine it’ll naturally develop into a habit – the good kind!
- Say or do something kind for someone everyday
I think I try to do this regularly, but when you train your mind to be conscious of what it’s saying or doing, it’s pretty amazing how you’re subconsciously keeping track of what it is you’ve set out to do. If that makes sense?! Whether it’s paying someone a compliment, holding the door open, or making dua in your heart for that persons wellbeing, the small things will hopefully add up and not only put a smile on the other person’s face but inshallah on me heart as well!
- Don’t waste food
We all do this and its pretty shite. Most of us at least, especially in this month and its terrible. I know sometimes you end up cooking too much and there’s only so many days you can go eating the same thing, but share or pack, or don’t go OTT in the kitchen lol sort out a schedule with your mates so instead of 5 of you preparing munch individually, have 1host per night. Nothing fancy or an Instagram iftar, just a standard ‘let’s not waste food’ type of iftar lol also pack up leftovers and share them with coworkers the next day or distribute it to the homeless, or feed the cats outside your building, anything other than that tsk and muttering of ‘astagfirallah’ we give ourselves before chucking food into the trash. This’ll be my second Ramadan alone and coming from a big family it’s natural to just prepare futoor for 5+ people lol so definitely going to try and cut it to 2-3 people and have mates over and anything left will inshallah be packed for coworkers!
Last year a friend and I had a swear jar where we kept tabs on what came out of each others mouths, and any profanity resulted in a certain amount being placed in the jar. At the end of the month we had accumulated quite a bit lol (oops) and gave it to one of the workers in our building which I suppose is kind of like turning your bad deeds into something good for someone else lol so I think that’s something I want to continue this year. Granted the point is to watch what actually comes out of me mouth and be conscious of particular word choices, but in the likely event something slips out, inshallah it’s for a good cause right?!
- Consistently content
This sounds odd, and I know we all aspire to come out changed for the better and our faith strengthened a tad more than how we entered the month, but give it a week or so and all them old habits tend to make their way back into everyday life which kinda sorta sucks.
I think I want to get to this point inshallah where I’m just good and okay with everything, the bad and the good and the unexpected, and have my heart and soul content with knowing that everything happens for a reason; I know I’ve gotten better at this over the years alhamdulillah but just strengthening that faith and maybe learning some new duas that speak to tawakkul (concept of reliance on God aka ‘God’s Plan’ as Drake so eloquently put it lol) and having it be a consistent constant is something I’d like to work on! If you’ve got any duas or hadiths you love that speak to this, def send them my way please and thank you!x
And there you have it lol 5 of a few other goals this month but these hit more of the surface layer; might seem quite simple and easy peasy but they’re ones I want to get better at and which inshallah I think and hope are realistically attainable this month! If you’ve got a couple of your own that you’re willing to share, comment below or on instagram as I’d love to hear them!x As always, lots of love and light and prayers sent your way, even more so in this super special month xx